One part of chapter 6 that I found really interesting was the section on becoming a more responsible communicator. I am sure that everyone knows a person who you hear speak and say "Did they seriously just say that?" I know that I have a relative that asks the most inappropriate questions and I cant help but wonder if she has any sensor. Hearing other people communicate irresponsibly makes me feel incredibly awkward, even if it has nothing to do with me.
Melinda Kramer has come up with two different tests to find out if some way you are communicating is ethical or unethical. One is the public security test. This test consist of asking yourself three different questions. 1.) Am I personally proud of this action? 2.) Am I comfortable with this decision? 3.) Would I feel uncomfortable or embarrassed if this decision were known to my colleagues, friends, spouse, or children? Although it may be impossible to answer yes to all of these questions all of the time I feel that I am comfortable with my answer to these questions most of the time.
The second testis he four-way test which is consisting of four different questions. 1.) Is is the truth? 2.) is it fair to all concerned? 3.) Will is build goodwill and better friendships? 4.) Will it be beneficial to all concerned? Again I may not be able to answer yes ALL the time, I feel good about answering yes for the most part. But afte reading this section I believe I will find myself asking these questions to myself before I communicate. For example last weekend I left a message on my friends phone. I thought it was funny but after hanging up I realized it may come off a bit inappropriate. When she did not call me back right away I became paranoid that she took the message the wrong way and did not want to contact me. Turns out that was not the case, but it definitely taught me a lesson. Before I communicate I will stop think, then follow through.
Best wishes,
ImaginePeace
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